F.R.I.E.N.D.S

Wednesday, July 05, 2006

Vamsidhar

I didn't know from whom to start.
Well, i think it would be best if i start from the person who was my first buddy.

Vamsidhar....

We first met when i was in my first grade.He was sitting behind me. I don't remember how it started but we were frds from the very first day of our First grade.We grew together and so did our friendship.
It is common in childhood that we fight our very trivial issues and be really mad at the person who caused us 'misery'
One such incident occured when i was in 3rd grade.i had some issue with some other guy(who by the way is my friend now...name:kiran kumar).He being stronger than me tried to take advantage and one day chased me and i ran for my life all around the benches in our class. In this fierce running i accidently hit against the side of a bench. I was cut at the thigh and was bleeding. Kiran stopped chasing and showed some concern but i was reluctant and refused to take his help. Later in a daily secret meeting with Vamsidhar at his place ,i expressed my desire to bust Kiran.
On the other hand, Vamsi was much more upset than me over the incident and decided to take the matter into his hands. The next day he had a street fight with kiran( who actually offered little resistance, guess he was still feeling sorry for me)Naturally Vamsi came on top and we were very happy on our victory.

I know it is pretty stupid but thats what we were.

We stayed in the same area and i used to be always present at their place. If i was ever lost, my dad knew exactly where to find me. we had many funny and weird experiences which i may reveal in some later post.
But it all changed slowly.His parents moved to a new location and i no more cud meet him or play along with him.And to make matters worse, in 8th standard i was shifted to Section A and he was still in Section B. We were very sad and upset but then we contented ourselves by saying that we can meet during the short break and lunch break and we even made a pack. We obliged to the pack in the start but later each one had his own priorities. we had our own group of friends(although common frds still existed), i was not at all comfortable with the fact that he can have frds other than me. I don't know what this stupid behaviour is called but i still seem to suffer from it. Even today i want my frds to be only my frds and be with me alone.(but this feeling was very strong in those days, now i realize that being over possesive is not all that good).
Anyway, i used to spend more time with my new frds in the begining primarily only to show Vamsi that even i can have frds apart from him.Slowly we lost contact with each other and now have to know abt each others 'were abouts' only through some third person.

Slowly but surely the degree of friendship decreased.Today we are just friends and wish i cud go back in time and correct all the events that led to the current situation.

In movies they show that 2 friends who parted in their childhood after meeting again at some later point of time become instant friends once again.
But i guess that is not the case in real life. The intensity remains as long as you are in regular contact with each other. I learnt this the hard way.....

3 Comments:

  • Hi Ravi ,

    yeah its true that once we depart its hard to maintain the same rapport that we shared long back. Each one will have his/her own priority (as u said) so this sort of feeling is quite common and its not only you but there are many other people who suffer from the same problem :)
    But that's how life is paced ,so we should get along with it. Make new friends but never forget the ol' ones.
    Finally I would like to add that this blog is really worth reading for every person who has F.R.I.E.N.D.S .

    By Blogger Vicky, at 6:20 am  

  • I too feel over possessive about my friends.Recently i had such an experience,when i came to know one of my friends calls up the other friend almost frequently...i was a little bit worried that why i dont hav a mobile so tht i can make a call daily,moretimes than him...surprisingly both are my best friends and i dont why i felt in that way...and ur blog makes me think abt it...

    By Blogger Sekhar, at 7:06 am  

  • nuvvu blog lo rasindhi nijam ra ravi..friendship konni sarlu dooram inappudu chaala maripotundhi ra..naa school friends kooda chaala rojula taruvatha "orkut" lo kanipincharu..kaani just hi cheppukovadanike kaani anthakante emi ledu..daggara unnappudu we share the world with friends..kaani dooram inappudu two different worlds evarivi vallaki create avutayi..

    By Blogger M.V.K, at 7:39 am  

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